Here is a NEWSFLASH for you busy parents who volunteer for everything, and help with everything, and are available for EVERY activity that your child’s teacher, sports coaches, or anything else that you get asked to do…
Saying YES to everything doesnt’ actually mean that you ARE there for your kids, in fact it often feels like the opposite.
When you are helping in the classroom, you may not be, and most probably are NOT actually helping your own child, but instead another child that is struggling.
When you are coaching a team your child is in, you are changing your role in your child’s eyes, and you are no longer there as their cheerleader, and supporter, instead you are often MORE critical, or harder on your own child.
When you are saying yes to wider group activities you are often so BUSY in your role that you don’t actually get to witness ANYTHING that your child is doing.
So your perception that you are ‘available’ and ‘present’ and that you DO so much for your child, is often the opposite.
Now, I am NOT suggesting that you suddenly don’t DO anything, but I would suggest that you really think about where your time is best spent, and maybe prioritise ‘playing’ the supportive mum sometimes rather than the ‘helper’.
At this time of the year there is a huge emphasis on EVERYTHING requiring parents helping to make the ‘world go round’ and that it is CRITICAL that your help is NEEDED.
It’s useful to think that when you say NO to an activity being asked of you by another adult, you are ACTUALLY saying YES to being there for your child as their MUM.
You can ABSOLUTELY be the parent that you want to be, but don’t get this confused with being available for EVERYONE ELSE all of the time too.